The Love Engineer

"Love, much like gravity, doesn't require
understanding for you to fall;

however, understanding is essential if you
wish to soar"

I Bring Logic to Love

Who is the Love Engineer

Hey there, I’m Alex — The Love Engineer. I am a mechanical engineer by degree, who realized there was a disconnect between what I was taught and what was true when it came to love. Technically, I was fed up with dead-end dating, and disappointing relationships.

What's Love Got to Do With It?

Everything! But, this ain’t yo Mama’s marriage nor your Daddy’s dating game. 21st Century relationships are different and require real skills if relationships are going to last. Learning how to love and be love should be taught in school, but since it’s not…

Join the Tribe of Lovers all over the world who are ready to put an end to the battle of the
sexes so we can WIN the war on love!!!

I'm Ready to Love!

If you Are Ready To Love

-- and be loved then you are in the right place

Love is your birthright, whether you
realize it or not. You are a gift to the world and Love is the world’s gift to you.

Now what you do with that gift is up to you.

To limit love is naive at best and disastrous at worst. But, if one understands the power of love, then having an incredible marriage will be the least they can have.

"I’m more interested in everyone understanding love so they can have an incredible life and amazing relationships of every kind, to also include marriage, if that is one’s desire."

speaking, teaching, training, interviews

This is not hard work its HEART WORK

In order there to be a healthy relationship, it starts with HEAL-THY

Heart Past Hurt

HEAL-THY SELF = Healthy Self

Love Yourself & Let Somebody Love You

Love and Relationships often don't make sense. Trial and error is a hard way to learn anything, especially when your heart is involved. But that is how most learn to love. Yet, you don't have to understand gravity to fall, BUT, you do have to understand gravity to fly. Similarly, you don't have to understand love to fall in it but you do have to understand love for your relationships to soar.

I Declare Love Podcast

Hear The Love Engineer, Alex Merritt and guest hosts divulge secrets for better relationships for Smart Ambitious Women and the Men who Love them.

Real Love, Real People, Real Results

Shakeeta Makeup Artist

I believed my true love wasn’t here and had a great discussion with Alex. Patience, understanding, and listening is what she was there for. Keep being great.

Chaz Fitness Entrepreneur
(recently engaged)

I've witness firsthand her expertise and compassion to help people understand male and female dynamics for better communication, unlock soul sexy confidence, and attract healthy, lasting romantic as well as nonromantic relationships on both the personal and career sides. She's the real deal!

Courtney Graphic Designer

The Shortest Distance Between Two People is a Smile

Be The One

The never ending search to find the one can be frustrating and futile. But what if there is a better way? Over nearlY TWO DECADES OF EMPIRICAL REearch and studying love and lasting relationships in my own love lab and the relationships of others on 4 continents , what is a better use of time is BECOMING the ONE. While love is mAGICAL WE DON’T HAVE TO REMAIN CLELESS ABOUT HOW TO WORK IT’S MAGIC IN OUR OWN LIVES.

Learning how to face life head on — and from your highest expression of self — is the work.

What I can promise is that you don’t have to do the work alone, Beloved…we can do it together.